David Deida – Conscious Sex Video Lecture [Live in Los Angeles 2017]

Conscious Life is proud to bring you David Deida’s first video program in over a decade, captured in broadcast television quality. This 2 1/2-hour program serves as a powerful introduction to David’s teaching to those who are new to his work, and an important update for those familiar to discover David’s very latest ideas.

For David, talking about sex is not just about technique, intimacy, communication, or attraction, it’s about becoming aware and conscious of the fundamental energies at play in every moment, in every person: the masculine and feminine.

The masculine, which all people, regardless of gender, can and do embody to varying degrees, at different times, refers to the awareness aspect of consciousness, that which is free from or beyond form, emotion, and distraction. It’s what some refer to as Buddha Nature or emptiness. In practice, in masculine driven moments or masculine dominant people, its value is calm, peace, being undisturbed, static, focused, one pointed.

The feminine, which also can and is embodied at different times by all bodies, is the flowing or alive aspect of consciousness. It’s what can be seen, felt, heard, experienced. It’s what’s happening: birth, death, movement, happiness, sadness, change, form. It’s full, fiesty, and ever changing. In practice, its value is change, movement, chaos, flow, creativity.

Being a balanced person, and a better lover, is all about tapping into the interplay between these energies, both in yourself and alongside your partner. David expertly guides both men and women on how and when to embody these polarities, how to attract and fulfill the ideal mate (and thus oneself), and how these aspects show up at different levels of relationship, from a first stage, more self-centered, self-focused concern, to a more egalitarian partnership, to a third stage ideal partnership, where energies are fully embraced, embodied, shared and yielded to create charge, attraction, and ultimately growth and deeper experiences for both partners inside and outside of the bedroom.

Don’t miss this rare chance to learn from the combination of David Deida’s wisdom, humility, compassion, performance, humor, depth, and challenge. He is a rare being with an immense gift that all can learn from to live more freely and fully, yielding more consciousness and love in every moment, whether a part of a sexual experience or as a part of navigating everyday humanity.

David talks sex but not in the fashion most of us are used to, rather he talks sex as the interplay of the masculine (or awareness) with the feminine (all form and manifestation) present in every being, in every moment. 

Being present with others is something that as a culture, we are struggling with because of endless distractions and underlying psychological conditioning. David teases out what it means to be present in this way and how that relates (and doesn’t) to the pure presence of the masculine aspect of the moment in a more sexual context.

David offers that psychological patterns and challenges are gateways to greater presence and loving if we are able to both accept and even love them as a part of the human journey we chose, while also becoming ever more aware of them and working to relieve the suffering these cause in our lives. 

David uses a question on the creative process to illustrate the interplay of the masculine and feminine, how they show up while in the act of creating, and also in everyday intimate interactions between partners. 

David addresses a woman’s question about what she can do to bring out her man’s desire, to know what turns him on, and how to embody it.

The bio-evolutionary drive to ejaculate fast and often to ensure offspring, while still running the show for some men, is being circumvented by other men in the pursuit of spiritual clarity, deeper consciousness, and more satisfying sex. David offers the why and how of this increasingly popular technique. 

David fields a question from a woman tired of holding up the purposeful masculine position with the mates she’s attracting. After explaining the evolutionary shifts that have brought women more into their masculine power in recent years, David uses his stages of relationships model to help the woman understand how she can attract the type of increasingly rare man she is looking for. 

David answers both a man and woman’s questions on what it means and looks like to fully embody the polarities of conscious awareness (masculinity) and flowing love (femininity). 

David takes a few last questions on the creation of art, the different ways that the masculine and feminine grows, and how the way people relate to their emotional patterns are how they relate the feminine.